Well done, Happy. It takes courage to examine yourself. Good luck with the journey.
As for the attacks on your decisions and character... I always imagine whether someone would say face-to-face that they are prepared to put in the comments of a blog. In the case of David - if he would, I would consider him rude and insensitive - if he wouldn't, I would consider him a coward. There is a time and a place for everything and this wasn't it.

Joel Monka

I want to echo the "well done" from many above. I don't know where I would be if I had not gone into therapy, but it wouldn't be the happy life I now lead. Just try to keep up with the blogging as well- some of us are addicted to HF!


Good for you!

More people need to understand that getting assistance with your mental health does not make you "CRAZY!!!!!"

I have seen far too many people (friends and clients) who were resistant to getting help because they "didnt want people to think that they were crazy."

I have never understood why people can accept a need for a personal trainer to get them in shape, an educational advisor, or even a job coach, but not accept that a mental health coach might be appropriate and helpful.

(Not that I would ever see a therapist--I am not crazy!!!)

I hope it helps you.


Happy, well done, you are very brave and we all freakin' love you! Good luck, hope it works out well for you.


That's great! As someone who's been in therapy off and on since I was 8 (I'm now 19, so that's not as impressive as it sounds,) I never experienced that kind of worry about what going into therapy "meant" and in my mind, no stigma attached to it, but I knew it was there because my parents and relatives always told me not to tell people that I was on medication or in therapy. I have never listened to them about this (or much else, I generally do things because I think they're a good idea...even though my stubborness has certainly cost me) and haven't regreted it. Strangely, I struggled more with the realization I had recently, that I have to go back to therapy, and possibly get back on medication, to deal with some of my problems. At the time, I was crushed because I'd gotten off the meds and other such and had even weathered a crisis or two and now it seemed I wasn't "better." But after the crying was over and I could reflect, I realized I'd simply forgotten that this is a continual process of "self-improvement" and it will never be "done."

Kai Jones

It sounds like you've already made a good match with a therapist, but if you feel stalled don't be afraid to switch. I've had therapists who were great at getting me through the current crisis but not so great at helping me solve the problems long term. When I finally found the right one, it was harder work but it's also stayed done (no recurrent problems--although I did go back to her for support when my mother died 2 years ago).


Going to therapy was arguable the best thing I ever did for myself. I spent a year doing lots of work and actually having fun dealing with my stuff. That was almost three years ago and I haven't had a serious depressive episode since. People have a lot of strange ideas about therapy, but it's a sign of strength to realize you need help and to ask for it.


Congrats on your decision. Good for you. It will be hard but hopefully rewarding. Good luck and know that you have a lot of support.


Hey Happy, I am really glad that you took a positive step towards facing your fears. I went to a psychologist at one point (coping with the death of a very loved family member) and it did definitely help to talk to someone with no 'agenda' or close relationship with me - they had objectivity and that is so important in dealing with emotional issues. Good luck to you :)

Amanda Marcotte

By which I mean that your posts indicate, to me at least, a woman with ultra-high levels of self-absorption. You need less of that, not more.

Translation: Servants and their health problems are rather inconvienent to the master.

Good luck, Happy.

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