I read that skanky whore thing at the So. Cal. Law Blog and wasn't thrilled by the gist of that comment either. I generally enjoy that blog, but that post rubbed me the wrong way.

Loved the Hollabeck site. Interesting stuff--and it's great that it gives the harassed women a sense of empowerment and control over the situation.


Happy, I am shocked at who is listed on there. I'll leave it at that...


I am even more shocked about what they said, because I know it's all fabrication.


Okay, now I regret posting those comments. It was impulsive... I read your blog, went to the site, freaked out and then commented. You can delete my comments if you'd like.


Okay, now that I've had a little more time to think about it and have cooled down, I feel ready to post a more intelligent comment. I am pretty embarrassed about the first two. My anger and outrage got the best of me and I didn’t think about the ramifications of what I was posting. I apologize.

I don’t like this site in the least for many reasons. One, it does not acknowledge that these “cheaters” may have changed their ways. It is also seems to be a site that thrives on trashing people, not helping girls stay away from “cheaters.” To me, those stories were more of a way of expressing rage at those boys than compassion for the girls. Perhaps a website that invited girls to share their stories of being cheated and hurt – while keeping the identity of the guys a secret – would be more beneficial and healing for those sharing their stories. And of course, there is no way to prove whether or not anything on dontdatehimgirl.com is even in the least bit accurate. I don’t doubt that some of them are true – some may be partially false and partially true. But there is no way of knowing for sure either way, and thus the site looses credibility.

Honestly, if you’re suspicious enough to search for a guy on a website like this, it’s probably a good indication that he’s not a trustworthy guy in the first place. I searched dozens of names – any guy’s name I could think of – and got a few appalling hits. I did that not because I suspected any of them to be cheaters. Rather, I did it because I’ve never seen anything like this and that was my first reaction.


This kind of defamation could easily occur on a male-run site as well.

What ever happened to that site that encouraged men to post pictures and descriptions of the women they'd had sex with (not with the women's consent, either)? Perhaps Justin can salvage his wounded pride there.

Otherwise--yeesh. It'd be one thing if this were a 'bitch about your ex' forum where everyone obscured the details, but accusing people by name is vile.

The Happy Feminist

Mermade-- I didn't think there was anything wrong with any of your comments. Actually, I think it's interesting and useful to know that you actually know some people listed on the site. So I am not going to delete anything you wrote unless you want me to.


Good post. I wonder what makes people say "Wow, that would be a good idea!!"

There is far too much potential for abuse on that website. Its sole function is to provide a venue to say bad things about someone else, whether true or not.


Thanks, Happy!


I agree I agree BUT...

Anonymizing men to protect them from reputations they have duly earned is obnoxious to me. Maybe it's impossible to set this up to ensure some basic level of objectivity\trustworthiness, and then yeah, maybe it would be better if it didn't exist at all. But I wish it were possible to make it work...

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