There was quite the hullaballoo in the feminist blogosphere last November over this article by Linda Hirshman in The American Prospect. The following is my summary of how I understand Hirshman's article:
1. Women are opting out in significant numbers from the opportunity to reach the most powerful and influential positions in our society.
-- Elite American women (i.e the most privileged and best educated women) are indeed in significant numbers opting out of the opportunity to reach the most powerful and influential positions in our society (such as senator, congressman, Fortune 500 CEO, judge, law firm partner, etc.). Women in this class frequently are abandoning their careers altogether, taking a significant number of years off, or working part-time for a number of years. Hirshman supports this contention with an impressive array of studies and statistics (although I would have to question her decision to focus on a group of brides from the New York Times Sunday Styles section, since I would assume these women would be a somewhat traditonalist-minded group by definition if they care enough about their social status as brides that they get themselves listed in Sunday Styles). Because of the time-intensive dedication it takes to reach these powerful positions, women who take years off or work part-time aren't going to reach those heights.
CAVEAT: As Hirshman herself notes, this does NOT mean that prejudice and discrimination don't still exist. So this "opting out" is not a basis for simply throwing up one's hands and saying, "See? We don't need to worry about workplace discrimination." But that's NOT what this post is about.
2. The primary problem, which makes a farce of "choice" feminism, is the overwhelmingly pervasive and powerful cultural assumption that women are the primary careetakers of home and family.
-- The glass ceiling women are butting up against is most hard to break not in the workplace but in the family. Women are severely constrained by the overwhelming cultural assumption that homecare and childcare is the woman's responsibility. It is pretty much impossible to put in 12-14 hour days at the law firm if you are the primary caretaker of a small child. Yet, even in progressive circles, it is often simply assumed that the woman is to be the primary caretaker. Therefore, in a sense, the notion that a woman has voluntarily chosen to opt out is a myth because she made that choice in a culture which assigned the primary child and homecare responsibilities to her. "Choice" feminism is therefore a cop-out because it fails to address the grim reality that the circumstances in which women make their choices are different than for men and, to a large extent, socially constructed.
3. There are concrete steps we can teach ambitious young women to help them escape the false choice of "be primary caretaker of home and family AND super career woman" versus "be primary caretaker of home and family without being a super career woman."
-- A solution (assuming we want more women in traditionally powerful positions) is to give young women concrete guidance as to how to get there. It is one thing to say vaguely, "Women can do anything!" and quite another to explain how a woman can compete effectively in a society which places on her an unequal share of the burden of home and family responsibilities. Concrete steps ambitious young women can take are:
1) "Prepare yourself to qualify for good work."
2) "Treat work seriously." One problem is that women are often taught -- vaguely again-- that the work is supposed to be about "self-fulfillment." Men on the other hand view work as a necessity, a requirement for providing for one's family. This is a problem because if you think that work is just supposed to be meaningful and fulfilling all the time, well, then, you're going to be in for a rude awakening and "opting out" of the workplace might seem more appealing. As Hirshman says, the path to really getting into a position to change things often involves the mundane, the small, and the dirty business of making money. She quotes one woman who thought it was strange that her former male colleagues got so excited about making deals because "it's only money." But, you know, money makes the world go round.
3) "Don't put yourself in a position of unequal resources if you marry." The big, big problem is that if you marry a man who is your age and at your educational level, then you are in a position of unequal resources because every expectation in our culture supports the notion that the man's career is more important than the woman's and that the woman has the primary responsibility to tend the home fires. Unless you marry a guy who is extraordinarily progressive, you're going to have an uphill battle protecting your career interests when it comes time to make tough choices about balancing work and family. It seems the best options are to marry someone much younger, someone much less educated, someone much less ambitious, or perhaps someone much older who is already established and can afford to take time off himself because he has done his thing already.
Hirshman also advises having no more than one child.
4. It is important to have more women among the power elite because what the power elite does affects all of us.
A) If the ruling class is overwhelmingly male, they will likely exercise their power based on obliviousness or indifference to women's interests.
B) Even ambitious woman will be tarnished by the knowledge that she is not likely to become a ruler. This affects how people treat her (i.e. based on the assumption that she is not going to go all the way) and her own confidence. The lack of women in the power elite thereby becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.
C) People imitate what occurs among the ruling elite.
D) Opting out is bad for the individual women who do it because they deprive themselves of the opportunity for full human "fluorishing." Uh, as I will explain in my next post, I think this point is where Hirshman goes off the rails. This is also where she really pisses people off. But I think it would be unfortunate, as I will explain in my next post, to ignore Hirshman's larger point because she was rude to stay-at-home-mothers-- her larger point being, that IF we want more women in power, we MUST address the forces and pressures that cause women to not seek power.
Women are severely constrained by the overwhelming cultural assumption that homecare and childcare is the woman's responsibility.
LOL. When I read this I picture a bunch of feminists imagining the goings on during the early emergence of culture. Groginut and Blastoc, the two early caveman leaders sat down in front of the fire and devised a way to impose a culture on the unsuspecting women of their tribe and to stick them with the chore of caring for the children. Then they rounded up the other males in the tribe and advocated that violence be used as a means of imposing this new fangled culture thingy on the women.
Look, culture is an organic thing. It evolves in response to inputs. The cultural assumption that homecare and childcare are primarily done by women wasn't arbitrarily decided, it grew in strength as a response to what was evolving in practice.
The glass ceiling women are butting up against is most hard to break not in the workplace but in the family.
Precisely! If women want to change society, then they need to take the battle into their homes and not the workplace.
The big, big problem is that if you marry a man who is your age and at your educational level, then you are in a position of unequal resources because every expectation in our culture. . .
Culture is made one person at a time, and not by feminist manifestos. The woman has to make clear to her husband to be that she is not going to be like other women (culture) and that if they are going to get married then her expectations must be respected. If enough women do this, then the ship of culture will begin to turn. Feminists holding rallies, marches, nude sit-ins, etc don't do much at all to change the husband-wife dynamic.
It seems the best options are to marry someone much younger, someone much less educated, someone much less ambitious, or perhaps someone much older who is already established and can afford to take time off himself because he has done his thing already.
The problem is with women themselves. There are plenty of guys who are couch-potatoes, slackers, and video-game addicts who would love nothing better than to stay at home, check out of the rat-race, but for some strange reason, alpha females seem to set their sights on alpha males, and it's quite rare for an alpha male to give up his career for the sake of his wife, especially when there are plenty of other women out there who won't ask him to make that sacrifice. Consider this article:
Look, the choice is clear - marry someone less capable or less ambitious than you, or marry someone older who has already made the sacrifices and is now willing to step out of the game, or don't marry at all.
If you want to focus on cultural expectations, then you should really focus on women's attraction to men who achieve. The perfect match would be for ambitious women to develop a sexual and intellectual hunger for underachieving men their own age, men who are willing to stay at home and be a househusband so that they can share in the marriage benefits that result from being married to a highly successful woman, which for these guys would likely mean a lifestyle that they couldn't achieve on their own if they were the primary income earner. Good luck on remapping women's mating preferences.
they will likely exercise their power based on obliviousness or indifference to women's interests.
What precisely are these "women's interests"? Do you think that Meg Whitman (Chairwoman of E-bay) or Carly Fiorina (ex-President of HP) were less focused on return to stockholders than their male counterparts and were more focused on implementing women-friendly corporate policies that eroded profitability?
Rather than simply trotting out these Marxist derived frames of analysis, why not actually substantiate that a male conspiracy actually exists.
Further, we've clearly seen what happens when women take over policy development, or implementation, in certain sectors of society. The assinine policies coming out of our education sector certainly have a female imprint all over them, but they don't really do much to further "women's interests" other than stamping out competition in the drive to make every student feel special. I'm not really sure how mediocrity is a woman's value, though as I've argued in another comment, the drive towards mediocrity is certainly favoring a shift towards egalitarianism and a move away from efficiency. I suppose that the leading feminist theorists may interpret greater equality, in that everyone is made poorer, to be in the interests of women for the outliers are pruned and everyone bunches together in the middle, a middle that is poorer and less robust for everyone. I don't think that most thinking people would buy into that type of rationale.
For more info on this topic, check out "The Opt-Out Revolution":
So, why are the numbers of women who are choosing to Opt-Out increasing? It's not like there is a shortage of daycare, or that the opportunities for women in the workforce are diminishing, or that suddenly more husbands have turned traditional and coerced their wives to stay home, especially after the the oh-so-laidback 80s.
These women are the culture leaders, the one's most able to live the message that feminists preach and thus serve as bright shining lights for other women to emulate as they negotiate change within their personal lives and yet many of these women are choosing to opt-out.
Posted by: TangoMan | June 18, 2006 at 02:51 PM
TM's comment about "The assinine policies coming out of our education sector certainly have a female imprint all over them,..." reminded me of the time I made coffee come out of my wife's nose with the following observation on male/female cultural effects- we had been listening to an NPR story about Harry Potter in which an English teacher (female) was saying that the amazing thing was that young boys, who are notoriously reluctant readers, were devouring the books. I remarked that she was wrong, boys love to read- they just don't love to read about pigs who fall in love with talking spiders! "Children's books" are not aimed at children, they're aimed at the women who are teaching the children- they're chick-lit, pure and simple.
While I duck, I had a more serious comment. My neighborhood having the demographics that it does, plus being UU, I know a number of gay couples, and have seen patterns similar to what TM is describing about corporate marriages; one partner spending more time at home, while the other is a 70-hour-per-week-climb-the-ziggurat type. I don't think the issue is masculine vs feminine; it's alpha/beta personalities. If two alphas want to marry, they will have to hire help to run their households and raise their children; it's as simple as that. It's hard to fault a corporation or a political party for favoring those who devote their life to it- those who do will always get the promotions.
Posted by: Joel Monka | June 18, 2006 at 03:35 PM
Joel, I don't fault a corporation for favoring those who devote their life to it. The problem is that women are much less likely than men to devote their life to it -- and I can't imagine that the child and homecare expectations placed on women in particular don't play into that.
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 03:52 PM
Tango Man, for the love of God, watch the length of your comments.
Point by point (to the extent I read the comment):
First, you argue that culture is an organic thing that wasn't "imposed" on us arbitrarily by crafty men.
Response: So? I don't care if the cultural constraints on women are imposed or organic.
Second, you argue that the problem is with women themselves.
Response: I wouldn't put it that way -- at all. What I would say is that girls are not taught to think in a practical way about what it takes to achieve success as a woman. So alpha women marry alpha guys without thinking through the consequences(and in doing so put themselves in an unequal footing because the alpha guy's career will always win out). That's what Hirshman's article addresses.
Third, you ask what are these women's interests that women in power will represent.
Response: I am glad you asked this question. I think it's important to note that women in power aren't always going to be just about women's interests -- other than the fact that simply being in power helps other ambitious women who want to be in power themselves. However, there are all sorts of areas where I can imagine a critical mass of women making a difference. For example, a male politician may be more likely to compromise on an issue of particular interest to women (like reproductive rights or access to contraception). Or, in the past, rape victims were treated with indifference by those in the criminal justice system (like not being informed of plea bargains), something that only changed when women attorneys stepped in and changed it.
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 04:10 PM
I agree that culture changes in large part one person at a time.
But how do we change aspects of the culture that hurt women one person at a time? Not by shutting up and ONLY fighting them on the home front (which is what I sense Tango Man wants us to do). Manifestos, or any campaign for public awareness is also part of that process.
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 04:17 PM
But how do we change aspects of the culture that hurt women one person at a time?
Hurt? Many women are making choices, and they are being guided by their own value systems, the real world constraints that they face within their families, and their own valuations regarding happiness and reward. It's quite obvious that many women are taking exception to the characterization that they've been hurt by making the choices they have. I'm sure the stereotypical radical feminist is quite certain of her opinion that she would be hurt if she made the same choices as the women she thinks are hurt. The solution is obvious - she shouldn't make those choices.
Posted by: TangoMan | June 18, 2006 at 05:18 PM
So? I don't care if the cultural constraints on women are imposed or organic.
Terrific, then don't frame the argument as though the culture was devised and then imposed so as to subjugate women. If you're comfortable with the concept of living culture, then if you object to the way that the culture has arrived at its current state, then you simply need to convince many people that their self interests will be enhanced if they adopt the feminist model of culture. As advantage accrues to those who adopt the feminist model then we should expect more and more people to make the switch and the culture will begin to align itself with feminist principles.
Of course the downside risk here is that feminist principles may not actually further the self-interest of a great many people and these principles will fail to be adopted. The only way to find out is for feminists who think dearly of their principles to actually live them out on a day to day basis. They should insure that they marry (or if that's too PATRIARCHAL, then hook-up or partner) with partners who will support the career ambitions of the feminist, etc. Basically, actually do something proactive in their own lives rather than whine about the situation without putting any skin into the game. If they want change, then they should change their own lives.
Posted by: TangoMan | June 18, 2006 at 05:27 PM
You're right, Tango Man.
Silly me. It doesn't hurt women that the vast majority of PEOPLE expect that women MUST be the primary caretakers of children even if that means taking a massive career hit, thus making it difficult/impossible for the woman who would like to compete effectively with men in terms of career.
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 05:35 PM
I have NEVER framed the argument as "devised" or "imposed." This is a red herring.
Basically, actually do something proactive in their own lives rather than whine about the situation without putting any skin into the game. If they want change, then they should change their own lives.
You're right. I'll just shut up now. In fact, all feminists should just shut up now.
(Maybe I am not making this clear, but wasn't the WHOLE point of the post, specific things we can teach girls as to how to more effectively reach powerful positions?????? Why are you not understanding this????? Of course, unlike you, I don't think that's the entire solution but the rest of solution has jack-all to do with this post and we have already argued anti-discrimination laws to death.)
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 05:41 PM
And let's not forget the pressures on men. Being a stay-at-home dad is not exactly the path to being respected as a man. There are some out there, god bless 'em, but let's not pretend this is an easy choice for a man to make either.
But girls, you heard Tango Man. It's simple: just find a man who is willing to completely go against all cultural norms and expectations. Easy-peasy!
Posted by: The Happy Feminist | June 18, 2006 at 05:46 PM