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The Happy Feminist

I am deleting comments that are over 250. (Yours was over 347.) I wouldn't say that's especially "nefarious" when I had just said to you in a prior thread about two minutes before your comment that that's I would do.

I don't think I ask much as the host of this blog. Anyone can comment. Anyone can debate my position, or even trash my posts. But I ask that this 250 word limit be respected. I'm glad people like to comment here, but you gotta remember this is a hobby for me, the primary purpose of which is my own pleasure.

And I agree 100% with you that there are lots of different ways for people to achieve a work-life-family balance and that one-size needn't fit all. I don't think that's inconsistent with anything I have said.

TangoMan

I happen to think BOTH spouses should make an effort to express sexual affection for each other.

Certainly. Though what she's pointing out is that the rate of sexless marriages has increased dramatically over time. In the game of mutual sexual affection, which sex has had the largest transformation of gender roles? You know the old saying "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" well we should start thinking about modifying that to "Why buy the cow when that means you have to give up drinking milk."

I'll hunt around to see if there is any research which measures the sexual frequency for couples with two alpha partners who are career driven against couples with one career driven partner and one who is more family centered.

Nicole Black

Happy, you lost me at "Welcome". I need a looong break from this...stuff. You can happily espouse your feminist ideals with a few random men (the purported enemy) offering up the only criticism of your means.

Great. A nice unbalanced blog about "equality" with regulated, short snippets of adoring comments from women who are not the women whom you castigate.

Aside from myself, I don't recall any other women who are what you and Hirshman oppose--women who are educated past college level (ie. so-called "professionals"), worked, had kids and then changed course, in part due to their decision to have kids.


Why would you want to hear from women like me? It's easier to castigate a faceless, nameless bunch, rather than hear from the real deal.

So, carry on without me. Enjoy. Maybe I'll stop back after my self-imposed break just to light a little fire of reality under y'all.

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The Grouch

I disagree with your broad stroke portrayals - her contempt, and mine, it's clear, is reserved for feminists, not women, and certainly not women who would have been proud to call themselves feminists 30 years ago.

No. Your contempt, and hers, is quite obviously reserved for any woman who hasn't actually performed a self-lobotomy.

In the game of mutual sexual affection, which sex has had the largest transformation of gender roles?

Why does this matter? Men have been allowed to be career-driven for almost two centuries (prior to that, the conception of "career" didn't really exist), women have only been allowed to do so more recently--so what? It's ridiculous to say that it's more women's fault because women have been committing the same mistake (if it is a mistake) for a shorter period of time.

I'll assume a computer glitch occurred as opposed to some other nefarious scenario.

She hates you, Nicole. It's a conspiracy.

David Thompson

but you gotta remember this is a hobby for me, the primary purpose of which is my own pleasure

So this blog is not a DUTY you obligate yourself to provide for the community? Why not?

The Happy Feminist

My goodness, Tango Man, if I had realized that couples were having less SEX (how horrifying), I would never have supported careers for women. Clearly, SEX must take precedence over all else, including women's autonomy and achievement.

You know the old saying "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" well we should start thinking about modifying that to "Why buy the cow when that means you have to give up drinking milk."

I think the more relevant question is "Why would the cow tolerate someone who thinks she is for sale?"

The Happy Feminist

And, you're right, comparing the life-long company of a woman as some burden that men have to endure (i.e. buying the cow) in order to get sex (i.e. milk) doesn't reflect contempt for women at all.

drumgurl

The most successful economies are those in which women have the opportunity to work in a variety of occupations. Working women have had a positive effect on our economy, and I don't think it's anti-housewife to say that. Not that anyone said it was...

I was going to go to law school last year after I got my undergrad in economics. But I couldn't stand the thought of not having a full-time job for three years. Perhaps studying economics influenced my decision. For the record, there were no other feminists in the econ department so it was not they who "brainwashed" me. It was those damn capitalist Republicans!

drumgurl

Women's autonomy and achievement v. sex... that's a tough call. Thank God we can currently have both!

The Happy Feminist

Hurray for sex!

And drumgurl, you know the most successful law students (I've heard) are those with an economics background.

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