h sofia

your honesty is refreshing.


My husband works for a Fortune 100 company, and occasionally I shlep out of my jeans and sweats to attend formal functions with him, usually in pretty exotic tropical places. He looks great in a tux and is comfortable- but I feel silly in long gowns and like I'm dressed "for the prom". So the last time, I borrowed an idea from a former coworker from India (a very strong minded woman I admired GREATLY) and ordered a handmade Salwar Kameez, a 3 piece traditional outfit with the most beautiful delicate embroidery. Light, flowing and elegant material.

I was covered from head to toe and have never felt more beautiful or confident- or comfortable! One gentleman who had lived in India came over to ask if I KNEW what I was wearing and complimented me, as did others. It was fun to wear colors in a sea of black; there were 4 of us in a room of hundreds who did.

Much can be learned from embracing traditions of friends and their cultures. For years, my friend spoke of her life in India vs in the US, what she missed and what she loved here, and shared her traditional foods, music, and so many other bits of her former life. When she took her citizenship exam, she was so nervous and we all celebrated when she passed. She was proud to be American, yet did it on HER terms, keeping the parts of her former life that SHE CHOSE to keep and adapting HER life.

The Happy Feminist

Right! I actually tend to dress with my arms and legs covered (longer skirts, long sleeves, windpants if I am running). This habit stems directly from an era in my early adolescence when I was required to dress this way because I lived in an Islamic country. By choosing to continue dressing this way, it is not a statement that I like having my dress mandated to me. It's just about my comfort level and what I got used to.

The Happy Feminist

I revised one small aspect of the above post here:


The Grouch

Indian clothing is very woman-friendly, and is one aspect of Indian culture that's much more feminist than the U.S. The clothes are designed to look good on all women, and are often individually tailored if you get them in India. Unlike the West, in India you're not obligated to display your body to look appropriate for a formal event (though you can if you want to, to some extent, since India generally doesn't subscribe to Islamic standards of modesty). So you can be flabby or unshaven or whatever and still look and feel great. No self-starvation necessary.

And yeah, the colors are cool, too. I don't like the all-black fashion in the West!

m3 karte

The debate revolves around the values of the republic, the French nation, the burqa and the question of what this country is proud of and what is important to it -- in short, many of the things that unite, or once united, the French.

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