So a couple years ago, I am getting myself coffee in the lunchroom at my old firm and two of the brand new women attorneys, both about 25 years old, are having a conversation right next to the coffee machine. Vibrant and Glowing Young Woman Attorney Number One is complaining to Vibrant and Glowing Young Woman Attorney Number Two that her fiance's sister wants to be a bridesmaid at her wedding.
"I just don't understand why you would even want to be a bridesmaid at that age. Bridesmaids are supposed to be dewey and young and vibrant and glowing."
I, of course, am envisioning fiance's sister as some grandmotherly person, but then Vibrant and Glowing Young Woman Attorney Number One turns to me and says, "Happy, you're about the same age as fiance's sister. Wouldn't you feel kind of silly being a bridesmaid?"
No, actually. And I may not be dewey and young but I'm glad I'm old enough to actually think things through before I open my big yap.
UPDATE: I am now regretting having put this up because I don't want to seem as though I am supporting a stereotype of women being "catty--" a stereotype that has never held true in my experience. I think the other lawyer's comment was thoughtless rather than malicious. At the time I said, "Gee, thanks," and we all laughed. I did think it was significant and disturbing that she seemed to buy into all sorts of sexist beliefs about youth and age, and that she was perhaps overly caught up in making her wedding "just so."