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will

Plus, your slip was showing.

I agree that you have to be relatively careful about making impromtu comments at events like that. It is good to participate in bar functions, but you have to make sure that you make a coherent point.

Otherwise, they will be snickering about you for the next couple of years.

The Happy Feminist

Oh dear. Do you really think they'll be snickering?

will

It depends if you came across as intelligent or crazy. Your comment certainly is not crazy. It sounds like an important comment to make.

But most of us can make a crazy comment sound intelligent and an intelligent comment sound crazy, depending on the day.

The Happy Feminist

yeah. I don't have a good feeling about this one. I am going to call me friend who moderated the event and try to get her read on it.

Will

Never fear! I am here to help you out of this jam.

Immediately draft a long email to send to the entire Bar Association. Apologize profusely multiple times. Blame it on the time of the month. Blame it on the 4 glasses of wine you had at lunch. Remind them that sometimes you do not act like your normal self after 4 glasses of wine, having your period, and taking several prescription pills from a client. Reassure them that you are not a druggie or a drunk, but everyone needs pills and alcohol every now and then.

Send it immediately. Speed is more important than proofreading it.

aspazia

I, for one, think you made an excellent point. It is true that this is not just a women's issue. The press is what is pushing this as a women's issue and one that drives a wedge between career and stay-at-home women. Did anyone respond to your comments?

The Happy Feminist

Note to self -- don't make impromptu speeches involving flailing arms and spit at bar association functions and never ever ever take advice from Will.

The Happy Feminist

My comment was the last one. Then we hastily adjourned.

I got a smile from a self-described "60s radical" who had earlier exhorted the younger women to "suck it up and take charge."

chipmunk

Remember, be sure to engage brain before inserting foot into mouth.

The local woman's bar in my community has a number of men on its roster (I'm not one of them because I'm too cheap to shell out the costs of membership - I'm not a member of the local bar assc. either).

will

I am hurt. Very hurt.

It was an important point. It is an especially important point for judges to hear. Judges tend to live relatively isolated lives.

When they see and hear lawyers discuss things in a fair manner, then they are more likely to think about those same issues in a better way when it comes to custody and divorce cases.

Judges naturally bring to bear their personal experience. One of the advantages of having more women and minorities as judges is that a different perspective is brought to court.

Good for you for expressing something that needed to be expressed.

PS: They will probably focus their snickering on your belly button ring that you exposed.

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