Well, gee. I'm 47 and bought my first home last year. I'm a single parent, having raised my now 18 year old son on my own since he was four. Did I want the house for security? Duh. Did I want to stop setting fire to my money every month paying rent that brought me nothing? Duh.

I *love* having my own home, and probably appreciate it a whole lot more than if someone else had handed it to me when I was 22.

What the hell is wrong with that?


Our solo living arrangements send a signal to men that they can have access into our lives and apartments at any time.

If I remember aright, I had these jolly useful things called locks on my doors, which kept out the hordes of lusty men quite effectively. Or at least meant they had to knock first.

Great post!

h sofia

This woman is "off the chain" (in a bad way)!

I bought my own place two years ago at the age of 27 and I don't regret it for a minute. I don't know when (if ever) I marry, but when I do, I will have that (among many other) asset to bring with me into the commitment. A few years before I purchased, my roommate (a few years older than me) asked why I'd want to buy a house - what man would want a woman who already had a home? I should wait to make a home when I was settled with a husband. I was surprised to hear this from her, as she is very independent and a lawyer, but I told her that when I got married I'd make a home with THAT Man. Owning a house would not interfere with that. And any guy who was too intimidated by me because I owned a house, well ... that's not the kind of guy I'm interested in anyway.

Reasons I bought a house: wanted to get some money back at the end of the year; wanted to stop MOVING and being subject to the whims of my landlords; was tired of the roommate game; wanted to be able to paint the walls; wanted a place of my own; and so on.


Like dying alone with your cats is a bad thing.

Seriously, though, good discussion!

t. comfyshoes

Way to bring it HF!


In most cases it wasn't just family rules that kept women at home. Community-wide standards, expectations and sometimes even statutes required it

Like really....why dont we go back to the good old 17th century?
cows...*whoops*...I mean women, certainly need a barn...umm...I meant a 'house' to keep them under control.

Candice Z. Watters sounds deranged.

On a side note:
Did you see the flak I got on my post? Thats only the half of it. some people actually email me...telling me to quit posting 'woman centric' posts...they would prefer to read about 'the guy I have a crush on, at work' and other titbits of my life so to speak.

The nerve!

The Happy Feminist

Megha, I was REALLY surprised by the negative reaction you got to your post. I thought it was a great post (I just left a comment) and I liked the post about the treatment of menstruation in traditional Hindu homes a lot too.

Juti, my goal is to die surrounded by my pack of corgis. Right now I only have one corgi, but when I am an old woman I shall have many!


Even we "wacky Christians" think that this article wasn't all that brilliant. Solo Femininity has a couple of posts (starting here) on the subject.

The Happy Feminist

I don't think you or your fellow Christians are whacky, Samara!

The Happy Feminist

I should also that unfortunately Focus on the Family has become so powerful and rich and influential that it does at times seem to be representative of conservative Christianity in this country.

I think that Carolyn at Solo Feminity has addressed the issue with a great deal of plain old common sense. I note that in the comments thread, Watters concedes:

That is not to say there aren't some great gals (you're one of them) who have successfully bought their own home with the input of the authority figures in your life.

While I suppose that is not a gender specific statement, I think that even when conceding that it is perfectly appropriate for at least some women to buy their own homes, Ms. Watters is highly uncomfortable with any independence in women.

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